Tuesday, July 04, 2006
Over the past two years, I really started to focus some of my energies into reading and writing (writing on my blog) on pro-life issues. I mainly focused on abortion, and why it was wrong. There are many reasons, we feel for the lost lives. But we also need to understand the pain that comes after abortion. I must admit that I have not written about those issues for a long time.
I do not know the pain of abortion, but I have read numerous stories. While buying some gifts at a bookstore recently, I was given a card which had some words written on it about helping women (not forgetting the men) after abortion. I lost it unfortunately, but it inspired me to read a little more and pray more for the pain that lingers in the lives of these women, who sometimes have made the choice to terminate their pregnancy, or who have been forced to do so, by a parent, boyfriend etc.
In addition, I began reading over the net and my heart really went out to "Gina". I found her story on
Rachel's Vineyard, you can find her story Here.
Gina was forced to have an abortion by her father, who was only doing what he thought was the right thing to do. The problem was never discussed, so Gina had no opportunity to express or process her grief and pain.
Thankfully though, she was able to get help from Rachels' Vineyard and go into family counseling with her parents.
I found that this story shows how her parents tried to reach for the "quick fix" option, which they later discovered was far from it, because of their daughters psychological pain, and life long grief.
Abortion supporters, will often argue that there is more trauma involved when a woman is made to have an unwanted child. But there is no research to support this.
There are no such studies to show that women who give birth suffer more psychological injury than women who have abortions. A woman who is stuck and can not keep her child, has the adoption option also, this should be an option that is given, while understanding that a grieving mother will be reminded of her loss, every time there is a baby advertisement on TV, pictures in magazines, news of family members, friends etc giving birth announcements. It's going to be a life long grief. These women who experience this grief can get help and can heal. There are hundreds and thousands of testimonies.
In conclusion, there is help available, the Catholic Church has offered "Project Rachel" and there are numerous other organizations, so , if you know someone who is experiencing this pain and they need healing, there is help available. Here are two links which I have chosen and in my opinion look to be great. God loves all and can heal all wounds.